When I first got to know this TED talk on Youtube,
I was a college student at age 22.
I don't feel much connected with the speaker about identity capital or
leverage your weak tide...etc those psychologicial terminologies.
Obviously, that time, I was too young to understand the meaning beneath words.
That TED video ended up like my other college textbook,
teaching people to do right things, and I don't see any chance for me to open it again.
Recently when I watched again that TED video "30 is not the new 20" from Meg Jay,
I started to realize half of my golden decade in early 20s has passed away.
And I'm no longer that young adultscent still thinking:
"I had nothing but plenty of time".
I would like to share you all some of my personal experiences
after watching "30 is not the new 20".
1. Confront Identity Crisis, and turns it into Identity Capital:
Identity crisis happens when you cannot be who you are, and what you want to be.
In our daily life, we have been facing lots of challenges
that what you love cannot support you to make a living.
As the eldest brother in our family,
I'm very proud of myself that time when I encouraged my sister to choose what she loves:
Graphics Designer to kick off her career freshmen life.
Like most of college students, when graduating from school,
she has faced an identity crisis whether to play safe and choose a job
that she might not like but good enough to cover her monthly expense
or choose her dream job but higher chance to simply make break even.
Despite the fact that our dad pushed her a lot to find a so called "decent job"
or jobs with more available vacancy in the market,
that was perhaps her toughest time ever in that 5 months jobless period
with so many lessons being taught by our dads,
she continued to look for whatever available opening for designer jobs or interns.
My task is to act as a bridge to ask my dad to give her more buffer time on this.
And I do not hope my sister working for somthing she doesn't like.
Eventually, what she sow in tears ended up reaping in joy.
She prepared all the artworks done in school life,
that's what we called: Accumulate Identity Capital, by adding more value on her in resume,
and she finally got her job offer as a designer in a startup company.
The best time to work on her dream job is before having one.
Happy us!
2. Leverage Your Weak Ties: New things come from our weak tides.
The new piece of capital, that new person to date almost always comes from outside the inner circle.
I will never ever forget in my life that I got my 2nd job offer
from a 10 mins face to face talk with my APAC General Manager.
We have a short but fruitful conversation together & we ended up hugging each other.
Oh my god, that's perhaps a scene captured from a Bollywood movie.
It's so dramatic (Just like India)!
Like the speaker - Meg Jay mentioned, half of new jobs are never posted.
I would never expect that a small talk can impact that big.
Fortunately, I got the entry ticket to a new job unposted.
And somehow I do believe, my next career path will be from my weak ties, too.
Now it's chance for you to use your weak tie!
Feel free to connect with me if I can be further help :)
